Holiday Blues? Survival Guide for Moms

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Let’s be real—once you’re the person holding the holidays together, everything changes. For moms, it’s rarely a picture-perfect season of gingerbread houses and shining lights.

 More often, it’s a marathon: juggling shopping lists that never end, staying up way too late wrapping gifts in secret, managing meltdowns (yours and theirs), and desperately trying to keep the peace at tense family gatherings. You quietly wish you could just fast-forward to January.

The truth is, the holidays bring a lot of pressure, especially for those doing the heavy lifting behind the scenes. 

The holiday blues can sneak up on you—sometimes hard—when you’re responsible for making the magic happen.

 So how do you handle the nonstop demands, the emotional rollercoaster, and still manage to find those moments of joy that make the season special? Let’s dig in.

• First off, let’s talk about guilt:  It’s almost like it comes baked into every holiday cookie. Maybe you feel guilty for not being as enthusiastic as everyone expects, or for secretly wishing you could skip the whole thing. Maybe you’re frustrated that you’re overwhelmed when everyone else seems to be “making memories” and “cherishing every moment.” Here’s the truth: it’s completely normal to feel stressed, exhausted, or even a little blue this time of year. The pressure to feel merry all the time is unrealistic and unfair. Give yourself permission to feel what you feel, without shame. Sometimes, the most honest thing you can do is acknowledge that it’s hard. That’s not failure—that’s being human.

• Now, about self-care: It’s not just a buzzword or something you squeeze in if you have extra time (which, let’s be honest, you rarely do). It’s essential. The reality is, if you don’t find even a sliver of time for yourself, you’ll burn out before the season is halfway over. Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate to you. Maybe it’s a hot shower where you’re blissfully alone for ten minutes, or savoring your morning coffee in the quiet before everyone else wakes up. Maybe it’s reading a chapter of a book, listening to your favorite podcast while driving, or even just sitting in your car, windows up, music on, for a few stolen moments. Schedule it if you have to—write it on the calendar, set an alarm, ask your partner for backup. You deserve a break, and you’re allowed to take it.

• Focus on making memories:  Not on getting everything “right.” Perfection is overrated, and sometimes it’s the imperfect moments that become the most cherished stories later on.

• And please—ask for help: You do not have to be the one-woman show running every detail. Let your children help wrap presents, even if they end up covered in tape and crumpled paper. Delegate tasks to your partner, your parents, or anyone else who’s around. People often want to help, but don’t know how or are waiting for you to say you need it. Ask, and accept their help even if it means things aren’t done your way. The holidays are about togetherness, not martyrdom.

• Don’t forget to take breaks throughout the chaos:  It’s okay to step away when you need to. Go for a walk in the crisp winter air, sit quietly with a cup of tea, or just spend five minutes staring out the window letting your mind wander. Those small moments of pause can help reset your mood and energy, making it easier to jump back in when you’re ready.

• Practice Gratitude: When you’re feeling overwhelmed, try shifting your perspective. Instead of focusing on what’s stressful, look for tiny sparks of gratitude. Maybe it’s the sound of your child’s laughter, the smell of cookies baking, or just the comfort of a warm blanket after a long day. Gratitude won’t erase the hard parts, but it can help soften them and remind you of the good woven through all the busy.

• And don’t lose sight of joy: Your joy, amid all the obligations, make space for the things that make you genuinely happy. Bake cookies not because you have to, but because you love the way your kitchen smells. Watch your favorite holiday movie, even if you’ve seen it a hundred times. Dance around the living room with your kids or sing along to the cheesiest holiday songs. Find your own moments of delight, no matter how small, and celebrate the unique, imperfect magic you create.

Conclusion

You're stronger than the holiday chaos. Give yourself credit for everything you do, for all the love and effort you pour into your family. 

So, how do you survive the holiday season? What are the little joys or sanity-savers that get you through? Maybe it’s a favorite recipe, or a secret escape hatch when things get to be too much. 

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